Let me start off by saying that my mother-in-law is the most despicable person I've ever met!  She has been diagnosed with Borderline personality disorder (BPD)* and refuses to get treatment for it.   She was diagnosed with this disorder a few years ago by her doctor and refuses to believe she has it.  This is one of the symptoms of this disorder.. how do you get help for someone that doesn't think they're sick?!  Trust me, I've tried for the past 5 years.  She has had this disorder for many years now as she's pushed everyone in her life away including her 2 ex-husbands, her son, her daugther, brothers and sisters.  No one in her family wants anything to do with her because of the filth that comes out of her mouth.   They've all tried to get her help, but she just refuses to be "put underneath a microscope".  

One of her biggest problems is not being able to see her son for over 14 years.  She was very abusive towards him as a teenager so he left her house as soon as he can and never looked back.  Within the past 5 years, he's re-opened limited communication with her via email or phone calls.  Just this past 4th of July, he came to visit us to see his new neice.  During his visit he decided to have breakfast with his mother for about 2 hours and then told her that he had to go back to his hotel and that she wasn't welcomed to tag alone.  By not allowing her to come back to the hotel set her off and the person that she can direct her anger towards is my wife (her daughter.. which she was also verbally abusive towards growing up and into her adult life). 

Now the phone calls started.. she harrassed us on the phone from 9:30am to 10:30 at night.  She called us just about every filthy name you can imagine.  She called her own daughter "fat (because she *just* gave birth), blind and stupid (because she was in a bad car accident 10 years ago and lost vision in one eye)"  -- how can a mother say such mean things to her own daughter?!    Anyhow, we can handle the name calling as it's happen since I met my wife. 

We're almost immuned to her filthy mouth by now.  But what she did recently started to affect my family. 

On July 5th, she called the police over to our house claiming that we had an unsafe pool.  I invited the officers to come back and inspect our pool where they saw nothing wrong.  One officer did mention that our gate needed to be fixed.  We just had our pool renovated and the contractor needed to remove a peice of the fence to get the materials in.   The officer told me that he would call her back and tell her to stop wasting their time.  This must have enraged her even more seeing how her plan didn't work.  What she did next was she called the town code enforcer on use for the fence.  They came over and said we would need to pull all sorts of permits for the fence and the renovation we had done on the pool (even after the pool company told us we didn't need to).  That's not a problem for me.  I have no problems bringing anything wrong with my house up to code.  What I do have a problem with is the crazy, psychotic woman that is harrassing me and my family!

"I'm going to make you broke, I'm going to drain every dime in your bank account"

That was what she told my wife.  The crazy woman has started her plans on making us broke by filing false claims and doing whatever she can to make us pay. 

We're a single income household with 2 children.  We live paycheck to paycheck and this insane woman wants to really make us struggle even more.  We have been saving money to start my 3 year old in pre-school this year, but with all the trouble she is causing us, it looks like we're going to have to spend $2000-$3000 to bring our backyard up to code.  Our backyard is not a junkyard by any means.. the pool company we used just failed to get permits. 

This is starting to be a nightmare and I know some of the stuff she's doing can't be legal.  Is there anthing I can do to protect me and my family from this unstable woman?

 

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Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is defined within psychiatry and related fields as a disorder characterized primarily by emotional dysregulation, extreme "black and white" thinking (believing that something is one of only two possible things, and ignoring any possible "in-betweens"), and turbulent relationships.  more

Crazy Mother-in-Law Update

admin on Wed, 07/08/2009 - 04:05

We received a call from the code enforcer this morning saying that someone came into their office to complain about our fence not being fixed.  I know for sure that she hired one of her workers to go over there to make the complaint.  I know she hired the guy because she has absolutely no friends!  What a b*tch!

Man i feel you

Anonymous on Mon, 08/10/2009 - 05:57

i would just wait it out she will slip then take her to small claims court for the following harsement slander , libel keep every piece of proof that she is indeed making lies that are damaging. Then when she pleds for you to drop the charges just look at her a smile and say this you should always treat other the way you want to be treated. Trust me on this never soop to there level cause it make you just as bad. plus your get the money back that her lies created.

I might have to..

admin on Fri, 10/30/2009 - 01:49

If she continues to harass us I might have to take her to court. What works for us right now is just ignoring her and to have absolutely no communication at all. I feel bad for doing that because she does have BPD, but I'm not a doctor and I've supported her in the past and just can't take the abuse anymore.

Here's a kicker.. she called me yesterday asking if I can assist her with her website & email. She left a message saying that she was calling for a "business" related question.. so by her being a bitch to my family on a "personal" level doesn't matter when she needs help computer help. Needless-to-say I never replied to the email or phone call.

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